After working with him for several months—actually almost a year—he has decided to chuck it all and just do whatever the hell it takes to stop the pain.
The costs so far have been great, and he’s going to lose much more as he slides deeper into his self-destructive behavior.
Yep. There’s Some Counter-Transference Going On
As his therapist, this is a painful experience to watch.
It actually brings out many of my own insecurities.
- Why can’t I “fix” him?
- Why can’t I “make him” make good decisions?
- I keep hearing voices saying to me, “If only you do this or that then he’d be doing better.”
- “You’re missing something obvious.”
- “You’re not pushing him hard enough.”
- “You’re pushing him too hard.”
- “You must not have connected with him enough or else he wouldn’t be doing these things.”
- “Another counselor would be doing much better with him.”
Changing Light Bulbs
Question:”How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb?” [Read more…]