After 42 minutes of conversation, your client finally tells you what is going on. They are engaged and present… maybe even a little raw with emotion.
And you have 8 minutes to do something with it because you run 50 minute sessions.
What do you do?
It’s Tempting To Go Over—But Don’t
I know all the reasons that pop up in your head. I’ve heard them more than once in mine.
- “Isn’t it my job to help them? That’s why they come to see me isn’t it?”
- “I feel so bad for them and I didn’t want to miss this opportunity.”
- “I really don’t mind going over a little bit.”
All these things might be true, but it doesn’t serve you or your client well.
Personal Boundaries For Yourself
Sometimes I run 8 clients in a day. That leaves 10 minute breaks in between each session—and how precious are those 10 minutes.
I need them to clear my head, to stretch and move my body, to get some mental and emotional space for myself. I need them to be able to leave the burdens of my last client behind and be prepared to fully engage with my new client who’s about to come in. Because I spend most of my day trying to connect with other people, the personal time I get needs to be filled with peace and rest.
Teach Boundaries To Your Client
Some clients, believe it or not, have poor boundaries. Those boundary violations usually end up hurting them and others. That’s why you need to be very diligent in maintaining strong boundaries with your clients.
When they learn that you treat yourself well, they will start to see what healthy looks like. It will make it easier for them to believe and integrate the information you’re giving them in session so they can start to live it themselves.
They might not like it at first. In fact, they might believe that you don’t care about them. But when you tell them that you’re going to honor, not only their time, but also your time and the time of the next client, your actions demonstrate your care and compassion.
How To Avoid This Situation In The Future
It is a wise practice to not unwrap anything too near the end of a session. If you sense that your client is getting ready to drop a bomb and you see that you won’t have enough time to process it appropriately, it is kinder to tell them to hold onto that piece of information for next time.
I was taught to call that a door hanger—something you come back to early in the next session. Then, you have to discipline yourself to revisit that topic early in the next session.
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