Actually, they canceled last week, so I knew they weren’t coming and they weren’t charged because they gave me the 24 hour notice I require for all cancellations.
But what I noticed about these cancellations is how different they feel.
Cancellations Means Crisis
When I was first in private practice I would panic whenever I would get a cancellation. I would watch my numbers drop from 21 clients that week to 18 or 17.
Instantly, I would be doing the math in my head.
“3 clients gone this week. That’s $180 less this week. Where am I going to make up that $180 bucks? What if they don’t come back? How am I going to make this work? How am I going to support my family? Am I going to have to get another job?”
Really. This is what it sounded like.
I know that a lot of this is my stuff—My story and relationship with money has a huge part of how this played out. But the feelings of fear were real (and as a therapist, I’m going to validate my own experience, thank you very much).
3 Things I Did That Made The Fear Go Away
There came a time, I’m not exactly sure when it was, when I stopped worrying about one or two cancellations. The fear didn’t disappear all at once. It was a gradual thing.
But it didn’t happen automatically. I realize that the following three things were instrumental in taking away the fear.
1. I Became Proactive—I didn’t just wait for people to call me. I went to where the people were and gave away good information that met people where they were at. The time and information I gave away has led to a steady stream of referrals ever since.
2. I Dealt With My Money Stuff—I have always had a hard time believing I was worth much financially. I knew this was going to become a big problem so I found someone who helped me work through my money stuff using EFT. This was essential work for me and has paid off in lots of other areas as well.
3. I Became Busy & Started Saying NO!—Everyone wants to eat at the restaurant that has a line out the door. When someone is busy, it shows that they are good at what they do. Instead of having to say yes to everything, I established some business boundaries that I didn’t waiver from and made other people conform around my schedule. This protected my personal time as well, which the wife appreciated.
This last one took some time and happened naturally. But have faith. Once the ball gets rolling, it takes much less energy to keep it rolling.
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